Real Blackmail Fetish Tales From a FinDomme

I adore the blackmail fetish, and it truly is an art form when a FinDomme does it well. Read about My favourite blackmail fantasy, a cunning blackmail trick I used, and blackmailed submissives who made the experience even more fun for Me.

My Favourite Blackmail Fantasy

One submissive’s fantasy was to be kidnapped. The spicy twist was that I would threaten to tell his wife that he’d left willingly because he had fallen in love with Me, so he would have no hope of rescue. The supervillainess in Me relished the prospect of carrying out this super-hot blackmail fantasy.

I always try to make blackmail more compelling, tricksy, and twisted. So, under the guise of talking about something admin-related, I phoned him when his wife was out. On the call, I eventually coerced him into saying that he loved Me and that his kidnapping fantasy was all a ruse to come and willingly serve Me in My lair.

I secretly recorded the call, posted it on social media, and sent him the link. I found his wife’s Facebook and sent him screenshots. After much pitiful begging, and a little extra blackmail regarding secret photos I’d found, it ended in a big fat buyout.

My Favourite Blackmail submissives

My favourite blackmail subs are those who play realistically and feed My sneaky side. This means I don’t want fake information. But nor do I want a submissive to give Me all their details up-front, which also feels fake, and gives Me little chance to escalate things and make the sub feel increasingly trapped.

It feels much more threatening if I’ve used My intelligence, research, tricks, and more blackmail to find out more about a sub. Because, you genuinely don’t know what else I know or could potentially find out.

I am thrilled when a submissive inadvertently reveals details during play. But, sometimes I come across a sub who seems to understand My mindset and what I enjoy and will leave little clues for Me to follow. This is so much fun.

One sub wrote punishment lines on a pad and sent Me the photo. A smidge of the top of the previous page was visible. I had to zoom in to read the upside-down writing to find his wife’s email. Another sub sent a photo of him drinking his cum. A post-it note on his fridge had the number of his landlord. Mistakes or deliberate, I don’t care. It gave Me such a rush to spot those details to use against them.

My Hottest Blackmail Trick

I use snooping, subterfuge, and smoke and mirrors to make blackmail as hot as it can be. My most triumphant trick was convincing a sub that I had an army of Domme spies in his hometown watching his every move.

From the vague details he’d given, and My secret snooping, I had worked out his phone model, his job, and his likely train commute. I didn’t tell him any of this until I ordered him to write lines on the way to work as punishment for being slow on a task.

That afternoon, I informed him that I knew he’d slacked on the lines by stopping to look at his phone, citing the model, and the time he’d caught his train. He was gobsmacked. How did I know? I told him My Domme army had seen him and if he didn’t pay Me, I’d send one to his office to tell his boss all about his kinks.

That one ended in a red safeword and a buyout. After all, maybe I do have secret Domme spies. And if I don’t, isn’t it scary to think that I can find out this much detail about a submissive all by Myself?

Want to Be Blackmailed by Me?

You will never know how exciting and erotic blackmail can be if you don’t experience it for yourself with a good FinDomme. If you’re brave, you can also spice things up by including blackmail as part of a Debt Contract.

If you like the sound of My style of blackmail, if you yearn to be trapped, taunted, and threatened, My blackmail packages are at the end of this page.

Send a tribute or consultation fee as specified to get a response. I only welcome serious enquiries, which mains you pay for the consultation time to talk about your blackmail fetish or fantasy. I only blackmail when given consent, which happens during consultation.

Fincuckoldry: the Most Powerful Form of Submission?

Fincuckoldry, or fincucking, is a spicy combination of FinDom and Cuckoldry, where you finance the dating and sex life of your Dominant. It’s the hottest way to play out a Cuckolding fantasy. Read on to find out why.

An Introduction to Fincucking

If you’re not a real man, why wouldn’t your Dominant want to be sexually pleasured by someone else? your inadequate skills and cock can not compete with Her Bull’s, can they? Relish the heady rush of humiliation while your Dominant is being fulfilled in ways you never could, cuck.

Fincucking is financing your Domme and Her Bull’s fun, which shatters even more taboos than plain old cuckoldry. Sex and money are the epitomes of power. Giving both away for your Dominant’s pleasure can catapult your cucking to the next level. And it’s the only way a sub like you can please Her.

Why Fincucking Trumps Cucking

On its own, Cuckolding is limited; its only scope is the sexual act. Fincucking, on the other hand, exponentially increases the range of power dynamics you can explore and ways you can serve and submit. There are endless creative ways to be fincucked from funding a date to financing their life together while you remain pussy-free.

If you’re a really good fincuck, you know your place is beneath both your Dominant and Her Bull. She may order you to buy gifts for Her boyfriend as well as funding his fun. If you’re the ultimate fincuck, you may even pay for their wedding – and you won’t even be invited.

Imagine Being Fincucked

How hot and humiliating is it to know that you’re the finsub who bought the fancy dinner he’s enjoying with Her, the lingerie he’s peeling off Her, even the silk bedsheets that are wet with their sweat?

Do you leak while being denied so that your Dominant can be fulfilled? Does it turn you on to know that they are sniggering about you while spending your cash? Are you dying to hear the details of what they’ve been doing while out with your wallet? If you’re lucky, She’ll call you Her good cuck to cement your submissive feelings.

Finding a Dominant to Fincuck you

FinDommes and ProDommes are the best choice when it comes to finding a Cuckoldress without the risks that come from trying Cuckoldry in a romantic relationship. She may have one, or several, Bulls or boyfriends – and maybe even girlfriends. They’re all superior to you.

Beware of any FinDomme calling Her man the “Alpha”. I have a toyboy (among others) who I use for My pleasure. He’s fit. He’s fun. He’s good at fucking. But he will never wear the trousers in our relationship; I’m already wearing them. He’s superior to you, but he’s not the Alpha; I am.

Start your fincuck journey by paying for a dinner date.

Ignore Fetish and FinDom

Deepen your submission by being ignored by your FinDomme. Find out all about Ignore Fetishes.

What Is an Ignore Fetish?

An Ignore Fetish demonstrates a Domme’s place above a submissive. The FinDomme goes about Her day while the sub pays for being ignored and only being privy to a microscopic bit of Her life.

Being aware that She knows you’re there waiting but is actively ignoring you can be a way to enter subspace that’s completely divine. Active ignoring is much hotter than passive ignoring; read on to find out more.

What Type of submissives Enjoy Ignore Fetishes?

Submissives who enjoy Ignore Fetishes love the fact that they are of no more importance to a Domme than a toy. She can pick up the sub like a puppet whenever She wants or leave it in the box while She enjoys Her life. A sub’s existence is trivial and it is merely a plaything to Her.

Subs who enjoy Ignore Fetishes tend to also like other forms of dehumanization and objectification, such as Human Ashtray, human furniture, or being hypnotised into being a mindless drone or HumanATM. Humiliation and degradation kink also jive well with Ignore Fetish.

How Is an Ignore Fetish Carried Out?

A FinDomme might make you call Her premium rate phoneline and keep you hanging on so you can only hear what She’s doing. She might even leave the room when She’s bored or busy and leave you with only ambient sounds until She returns.

Or She could choose to do a paid video call. However, visual access might be limited to staring at Her feet while She works or looking at the door while She goes out with her friends. Perhaps She’ll pop Her phone in Her handbag to go shopping, letting you helplessly watch as She spends your cash.

What Makes an Ignore Fetish Hot?

Carrying out an Ignore Fetish requires skill if you want a genuinely enjoyable experience. FinDommes need to be creative about what interaction they have with their sub. If a sub enjoys humiliation and degradation, some choice comments, gloating, or tasks from the FinDomme can spice up the experience.

For example, as a smoking Domme, I enjoy leaving My camera trained on My ashtray. The finsub only gets to see My fingers and hear Me laughing at them when I’m enjoying a cigarette. Sisyphean tasks are also sexy; I’ll only pay attention when you complete a near-impossible task.

Enquire About your Ignore Fetish With Me

If you’re interested in being ignored by Me, send a tribute and enquire. If you don’t send enough to get a response, you’ve just been ignored in the least sexy, but cheapest way possible. Congratulations, you’re an actual loser.

Serious submissives should send a decent amount for the chance to be ignored more sublimely than you ever thought possible. If you’re not sure if you’ve sent enough, double it until you get a response.

FinDom: Looking For a Debt Contract?

How do Debt Contracts work? What sort of finsub is best suited to a Debt Contract? How much should a paypig expect to spend? Learn about Debt Contracts, and how to start one with Me.

Debt Contracts and finsubs

What sort of boy likes being trapped in Debt, watching his bank balance dwindle while a Domme repeatedly extracts his cash? What type of paypig relishes the feeling of powerlessness as the Debt continually mounts according to a FinDomme’s desires? If you twitched reading that, a Debt Contract could be for you.

However, a Debt Contract isn’t suitable for all finsubs. Even a short-term Debt Contract requires ongoing financial commitment for the duration, so a paypig must be able to practice discipline. No FinDomme will want to set up a Debt Contract with an eternal Domme-hopper or a financial flake.

How Debt Contracts Work

While different FinDommes vary, all Debt Contracts begin with establishing a ‘Starting Debt’ (the amount to be repaid) and some sort of schedule for repayment. A FinDomme will then draw up a spreadsheet to keep track of a paypig’s Debt.

Most Debt Contracts will feature an Interest Rate (usually bordering on usury) and extra fees and financial penalties, which could be imposed for late repayments or simply as funishment. A Debt Contract usually contains a buyout clause, which can be used as a safeguard if the finsub needs to cease play.

Budgeting for a Debt Contract

Debt Contracts escalate by design. Fines, fees, and interest add up, especially if the paypig is paying interest at a Compound rather than a Simple rate. This can also lead to a Debt Contract continuing for longer than initially agreed. The escalating and extended nature of Debt means a finsub must have a stable ongoing source of income.

When establishing parameters, such as the principal amount and the interest rate, it’s wise to be relatively conservative to keep the play sustainable. It may be exciting to establish Debt randomly via a Retweet game, but for practical reasons, a paypig should have a realistic idea of what is consistently affordable.

Debt and Other Kink

Combining Blackmail with Debt can make the experience even hotter – and more expensive. The sense of powerlessness is more complete when the amount you owe is growing and a FinDomme is pressuring you to pay with threats of exposure if you don’t. Be warned that Blackmail is edgeplay. Know your limits before you begin.

If you want less risky play, there are plenty of opportunities to mix other fetishes with Debt. Funishments can be based on a finsub’s specific humiliation kink, for example. And why are you in Debt to Me anyway? Is it just because I’m Superior or have you been a naughty slut? The specific storyline can inform the Debt Contact.

How to Get Into Debt With Me

If you think you’re ready to become hopelessly trapped in Debt, send a minimum $50 / £35 Consultation Fee via My Payment methods.

Once you’ve paid, you may email Me to talk about what you’re looking for. I will ask you to fill in a questionnaire to help Me draw up a bespoke contract for you.

Once W/we have agreed terms, the admin fee to draw up your bespoke Debt Contract is $200 / £150. Once you have paid that, you’ll receive your paperwork. And you’ll officially be trapped in Debt. Perhaps never to escape…

NB: I do not carry out Debt Contracts for less than a $70 / £50 repayment per week.

How to Spot a Genuine FinDomme

Unfortunately, finsubs often report disappointing experiences because they pick a self-styled “FinDomme” who is not actually Dominant, but sees it purely as a lucrative niche of sex work.

In a world where any Woman can, quite rightly, post a profile online to extract cash from men, how do you sort out the genuine FinDommes from those who are not into the D/s dynamic?

Here’s how to tell which FinDommes will truly give a submissive man like you a Findom experience that is sexy, satisfying, and super-hot.

Spotting Fake FinDommes

A leather coat doth not a Mistress make. Posting a cute or sexy picture on social media and using “keywords” like ‘paypig’, ‘finsub’, or ‘findom’ does not mean that this Woman knows the first thing about Domming.

So first, beware of any “FinDomme” who displays any of the following behaviours: randomness, uncertainty, desperation, or escalating the amount of explicitly sexual content in posts while asking for money. These are tell-tale signs of a vanilla or a submissive, not a Domme.

FinDommes Want Control

The vast majority of Dommes get their kicks from being controlling. So, if She’s into Findom, She wants to Dominate a finsub into handing over his money. A real FinDomme does everything through the context of control.

For example, let’s look at the case of a humanwallet with an Ignore Fetish. Dommes don’t passively ignore finsubs. A genuine FinDomme will actively ignore a finsub, perhaps by “casually” button-pushing so he knows very well how unimportant he is. True FinDommes always use control tactics.

A FinDomme Has Other Kinks

Findom may provide the biggest kick of all for a Domme because you are exchanging something tangibly powerful in this society of ours; money makes the world go round and extracting your cash can be the hottest rush for a Domme.

But no genuine Domme is only into Findom. She will enjoy other kinks too, because She’s seeking control, not just money. Finding new ways to exploit subs makes Me feel powerful, so I am open to exploring most kinks in tandem with Findom; but I have My personal favourites as every Domme does.

FinDommes Are Specific

A woman hurling random insults on social media and asking for money is not Domming. All kink and fetish is specific. If I’m going to insult you, I’m going to pick words that will be aimed at pushing your own personal buttons; the ones that make you squirm with glee.

It’s that element of control again. A sub cannot be controlled by randomness. When I work with a finsub, I drill down to find the essence of his submissiveness. I psychologically assess, test, measure, make notes. A real FinDomme isn’t lazy or random. She works to ensure your experience is so specific that it blows your mind as well as your bank account.

Summary

Look closely at the context of what a FinDomme is doing. A genuine Domme does nothing for the sake of it. Look for the signs of control, manipulation, kinkiness, and specificity behind that oh-so-pretty picture of a potential Mistress.

Don’t be fooled by follower counts or lots of content. One FinDomme I hugely respect neither has Her picture on Her profile nor posts explicit content. But, by Goddess, She’s powerful. I can see exactly what She’s doing and it’s highly skilful. She has Her finsub by both the balls and the wallet. And he loves it.

FinDom Niches I Love

FinDom isn’t a single thing and isn’t done one way. Here are the aspects of FinDom I personally enjoy, and the way I like to play them.

Fincuckoldry

I’m far too independent to have any man fund My lifestyle. I would personally feel insulted and humiliated by that. But getting a man to fund My toyboy’s fun is hot. The humiliation is then all yours to enjoy while I still feel like the powerful Woman I am.

I also enjoy Fincucking because of the dual aspect of control. I’m directing the fincuck on what it must buy for My toyboy. And I’m also directing the show for My toyboy; he only gets things I decide he should have.

HumanATM Programming

I enjoy programming subs to pay up whenever I say so. Essentially, the sub becomes a machine, a mindless object for Me to use at My will. This jives well with Hypnosis and Human Ashtray, kinks I am also into.

If you’re looking to become a HumanATM, you must have adequate funds available. There is no point in training you if every time I want to press your button, you’re out of order. It also takes willingness to be trained to lose your will; you must be open to trance and programming.

Gender-Swap FinDom

I love finsubs sending tributes because they enjoy and respect what I do and want to serve Me. But I dislike the aspect of FinDom where women are paid by men for looking pretty, getting naked, or acting like a cute proxy girlfriend.

I’m all about FemDom and I love flipping gender roles. I enjoy being the female Boss who makes you work overtime, the Bank Manageress who controls your cash, the Goddess you donate to, or the Ex-wife who still wears the trousers and owns your wallet.

High-Pressure FinDom

When drawing up a Debt Contract, some FinDommes just do a basic IOU and expect a finsub to pay it. That doesn’t turn Me on as much as actively pursuing Debt like a real Debt Collector. I like pressurising; sending reminders and adding extra fees and rules.

Blackmail is the next level of pressure and I truly love this fetish. I love the levels of manipulation, surveillance, and control I can achieve. Both Blackmail and Debt Collection take a lot of time, energy, and organisation. For this reason, they are expensive.

FinDom Niches and Me

What you might notice from the aspects of FinDom I enjoy is that they are based on high levels of control and creative input. I am not a passive person. I am detail-orientated, inventive, and organised. I don’t enjoy things unless I feel fully present, involved, and engaged.

Consider this if you’re seeking short-term play, long-term ownership, or TPE. I like variety, novelty, and excitement.

Sloppiness, laziness, and inattention to detail irritate Me. I like finsubs who listen carefully to instructions and learn fast. Prove that you can do things properly, so much so that I trust you with spontaneous acts of service, and you may truly be worthy of being owned.

The Problem of Unchaste Men

Unchaste men cause many problems for themselves and others. My article pulls no punches about the issues an uncontrolled cock creates. But I offer a solution; orgasm control, through training or chastity.

Unchaste men are Dumb

You think with your dicks. And you’re actually stupid enough to feel proud of being a person whose penis rules his life. You swell with pride like a man-whore about your erection without realising how nonsensical that is.

It’s a piece of flesh, mate. Woohoo. It fills with blood. Wow! I gush out 80ml of ruby moon juice every 4 weeks and I don’t think of it as an achievement. It’s biology. Seriously, get over your cock.

Unchaste men Feel Entitled

Not only are you led around by your silly schlong, you believe you’re entitled to act on your impulses. Otherwise why would you send unsolicited dick pics to women? Why do you think it’s OK to slaver over ladies like a dumb beast?

Society has encouraged male entitlement in every realm. Thanks, patriarchy, for adding to the problem. While the biological drive to conquer Women served men well when we lived in caves, it is no longer a help but a hindrance.

Unchaste men are Useless to Women

You seem to think Women will be flattered by your lust. But no Woman wants a man who can’t think of Her needs more than his knob. An unchaste, uncontrolled man can’t serve a Woman meaningfully.

By letting your little man rule you, you’re serving only your quarter-pound (or less) of flesh. You’re doing a disservice to Women, who deserve better. And a disservice to men, who could be better than dumb, libinidous apes.

Orgasm Control Is The Answer

If your roving dick and insatiable horniness is causing you and everyone else disappointment and dissatisfaction, orgasm control is the answer. Think of how much better your life would be if it wasn’t ruled by your brainless wong.

Controlling your orgasms means you will become clearer-headed and stop acting like such a backwards Neanderthal. Then, you can do something useful with your life, like working hard, achieving your goals, and making Women happier.

Types of Orgasm Control

Orgasm control can be achieved through masturbation training, such as edging and ruining orgasms. Men can be conditioned to orgasm only when a Woman specifies or at material of Her choosing. The added advantage is that other Women won’t have to suffer your misplaced lust.

Mechanical chastity is an option for men who don’t have the patience or willpower required to control their orgasms. Some chastity cages even come with remote-controlled locks for extra peace of mind.

Men who engage in chastity say that when they are allowed to orgasm, it is much more stronger. And some are so pleased with chastity that they never want to be unlocked. All men should try chastity as a win-win solution to many of the problems having a cock creates.

I offer keyholding with daily lock-up check-in from £45 a week. It’s more if you want to be teased and denied.

Blackmail Fetish and FinDom

What happens in a Blackmail Fantasy with a FinDomme, plus examples of Blackmail Fetish Packages.

What Is Blackmail Fetish

Blackmail Fetish has varying degrees of risk. In the safest form, Blackmail may purely consist of Eroticised Demands, such as “If you don’t pay, I will tell your wife about your fantasy.” without the FinDomme having contact details.

Or the FinDomme may have threaten to post embarrassing evidence about a paypig on social media unless She’s paid. Fantasy Blackmail may be performed by email, on the phone, via social media; or use a combination of these channels.

Escalating the Blackmail Fantasy

As the Blackmail Fetish escalates, it becomes more active. The FinDomme may really post humiliating photos on social media, requiring payment to delete them. She might “friend” a blackmailed paypig’s wife on Facebook, and insist on payment not to message her.

Many FinDommes have the tools and experience to find detailed information on a blackmailed paypig, including online profiles, your address, your job, and your family, from only a few pieces of data.

Blackmail can consist of everything from persuasion to intimidation depending on what a sub consents to. FinDommes may enjoy using trickery to escalate the pressure.

Blackmail and other Kink

Blackmail fetishes are often accompanied by other fantasies involving powerlessness or taboos; these other kinks can be used to further enhance the experience of Blackmail Fetish.

A FinDomme can use kinks to push your buttons into reliniquishing more information and cash. She might set Blackmail tasks, such as a requiring you to wear humiliating clothing. As the Blackmail Fantasy continues, evidence from these tasks can, in turn, be used by the FinDomme to make Eroticised Demands.

Hardcore Blackmail

The more hardcore the Blackmail Fetish, the more expensive it will be. Blackmailed paypigs may find themselves subject to surveillance. A FinDomme might take control of a blackmailed paypig’s computer, phone, or social media accounts permanently.

A finsub should only get into Hardcore Blackmail with a trusted FinDomme; and most Dommes will only work with a paypig they trust because this is Edgeplay and puts both parties at risk. It takes wealth and commitment to be worth it for both parties.

Consensual Blackmail

For Our own legal protection, FinDommes must attach words which recognise the “Fantasy” element of “Blackmail” to this Fetish. I am a FinDomme who loves Legalese, so I often refer to Blackmail as “Consensual Non-Consensual Erotic Extortion”.

All BDSM activities, including Financial Domination, must be consensual and safe; both the finsub and the FinDomme must agree terms and limits beforehand. Paypigs who want to be “non-consensually” blackmailed must also do this.

Because Blackmail involves activities which could be construed as illegal (stalking, harrassment, and demands – yes, even if you’ve agreed to everything), a FinDomme has the right to ask for reassurance against prosecution, such as signed consent.*

Be “Blackmailed” by Me

I require a minimum $50 / £35 Consultation Fee via My Payment methods to talk about your Blackmail Fantasy.

Here are some Blackmail packages for the purposes of illustration. My writing about these services should in no way be construed as an offer, solicitation, or invitation. You should also be aware that a FinDomme will always try to take more than you signed up to spend.

Itty Bitty Blackmail: $50 / £35 consultation fee

Have at least $70 / £50 more available; you’ll need it.

A few eroticised nudges with safewords to see whether or not Blackmail is for you. I also use this period to evaluate your potential as a sub.

This trial period may be ended by Me, you, or both. Or W/we may choose to continue the fun.

Be aware of your limits; even though the Blackmail may be Itty Bitty, the level of control I have over you isn’t.

Fixed-term Risky Blackmail: Start from $320 / £235

$50 /£35 consultation Fee + $200 / £150 Debt Contract Fee + Minimum $70 / £50 per week payment.

Set up a Debt Contact for a fixed term with a buyout clause as part of the deal. Full terms will be agreed.*

The more you pay, the more intimate research and contact you can expect. If you are only paying £50 a week, you might expect contact once or twice a week.

Ongoing High-Risk Blackmail Start from $1220 / £900

$200 / £150 Consultation Fee + $680 / £500 Contract & Waiver Fee.*

Expect to pay bare minimum $340 / £250 per week; in reality, it will always be more.

No holds-barred research and intrusion. You never know what tasks will be set, what trickery will be used, or when you will be contacted for more money.

Unlimited Blackmail: Send Minimum $2040 / £1500 to enquire

Unlimited Blackmail would, in theory, give Me the right to Financially Dominate you as far as I want. It would only end when I decided it did, which would likely be never.*

*For ongoing, high-risk Blackmail, I may require you to sign a Services Contract and Waiver. This is the same sort of legal document you would be required to sign to do a bungee jump. It is simply for My legal protection.

What Your Smoking Fetish Says About You

Many men love watching a cigarette or cigar dangling between a lady’s lips. But particular types of smoking fetish mean something deeper about you as a submissive.

Mistress’ Smoking Lips

A smoking woman screams a mixture of defiance, relaxation, and taboo-breaking; all of which are attractive to a man in need of stress relief. The sight of a cylindrical object going in and out of Her mouth has obvious connotations.

Less well-endowed betas should note which they prefer; a short, fat cigar or a slim cigarette. There is likely a correlation in the size and shape of your dick. But you know a Mistress would never want that in Her mouth; so vicariously, you revel in watching Her sucking on Her smokes.

Forced Smoking

A large number of submissive non-smokers have wanted Me to turn them into a smoker. The attraction is being controlled, feeling forced to do something terribly naughty “against your will” by a Domme. This helpless naughtiness is a large feature of many other kinks.

Subs who enjoy forced smoking are likely to be in positions where they must act conservatively in their daily life. If I were to “force” you to become addicted to cigarettes, it would be nothing to do with you now, would it? You could live out your rebellious dreams of breaking the rules without feeling guilty.

Human Ashtray

Dehumanisation is the main attraction of being a human ashtray. You love that you are being used and taken advantage of in a filthy way. Your mouth, tongue, and other body parts being used as receptacles means you are no longer a man with everyday worries; you are merely an object for your Mistress’ pleasure.

Wanting to serve as an ashtray also means you recognise that you are only good enough for your Domme’s waste products. And that is because you know you’re beneath Her, and it’s Her personal needs you should be taking care of.

Cigarette Burns & Scarification

Wanting to be burned with Mistress’ cigarettes clearly means you are a masochistic submissive. It is probably the painslut in you that likes this practice most. And let’s face it, cigarettes are a sexy way to inflict pain.

Yearning to be permanently scarred by Her cigarette burns and painted with Her ash speaks of wanting ownership. You want Her to mark you as Her personal property. Much like subs who want a Domme’s name tattooed on them, a burn from Her cigarette means part of you will always belong to her.

Smoking Fetishes Are Hot

As a heavy smoker who enjoys both cigarettes and cigars, I think smoking kink is super-hot. The above types of smoking fetish are broad categories; as with all fetishes, different people have very specific versions of them.

I am always excited to find out what a submissive’s particular preferences are. One of My own kinks is writing submissive names on My cigarettes before I light and burn them. Make of that what you will. 😉

What to Do if You Can’t Afford FinDom

The FinDom fetish can be affordable for every sub. Here’s how to approach FinDom if you’re not a whalesub.

Make Small Regular Sacrifices

Don’t expect a FinDomme to pay you any attention if you have only sent one tiny tribute. However, a Domme will notice if you send a little money every week. Paying for something specific, such as adopting Her daily cigarette or coffee bill, is meaningful.

A good Goddess will notice a regular sacrifice for something that matters to Her. But don’t start bugging a Domme if you’ve only sent small potatoes. That will get you blocked, banned, and hated among the FinDomme community.

Use FinDomme Referral Links

You can make money for your FinDomme by using Her referral links. Signing up for Cashapp, Bitcoin platforms, and other financial services through Her referral links will give Her, and sometimes you, cashback.

It’s also a convenient way to let Her know you are planning to spend your own money in future. Getting on a FinDomme’s radar without annoying Her about small payments is win-win.

Make More Money

You can’t expect Dommes to indulge your fetishes without paying for them. To be a finsub, it is self-evident that you need adequate finances. Get another job. Do overtime. Sell your old stuff on ebay.

Think of your favourite Domme as inspiration for making more money. If you don’t enjoy your job, remember it’s for you and Her. If you want Financial Domination, you have to work for it. An important aspect of the arrangement is a finsub’s sacrifice.

Be Better at Budgeting

It astounds me how many “broke men” don’t even realise how much money they are wasting on things they don’t need. Saving money by spending smarter on utilities or spending less on pastimes and goods can help you afford FinDom.

Some Dommes, like Me, do Budget Control. Of course, it’s for a fee. You can pay Me to do a one-off look at your income and outgoings and will tell you how to save money. Or I can control your budget on an ongoing basis.

As long as you have some income to pay Me for the service, I can cut your spending drastically and make you increase your income. I have made submissives sell cars, stop getting haircuts, get better jobs, and many other things to improve their finances. It’s very motivational when you have a Domme like Me to tell you what to do.

Buy FinDom Content

BuyingFinDom content is a more affordable way of accessing your fantasy if you don’t have the money for a full arrangement. While a debt contract or huge drain is much more satisfying, don’t do it if you can’t afford to.

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